
Children of Alcoholic Parents – What Families Need to Know
Growing up with an alcoholic parent can deeply impact a child’s emotional and psychological well-being.
In 2025, it’s estimated that over 11 million children in the United States are living with at least one parent who struggles with alcohol use disorder (AUD) (Source: National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism).
Children of alcoholic parents often face instability, neglect, and confusion—experiences that can affect their well-being for years to come. Understanding these effects is the first step toward healing. These children frequently struggle with feelings of shame, anxiety, and depression, which can lead to behavioral issues and difficulties in forming healthy relationships later in life. Helping children of alcoholic parents involves not only addressing these emotional scars but also providing the right support to guide them toward a healthier, more balanced life.
Read on to discover the effects, support strategies, and healing steps for these children.

1. Understanding the Impact of Alcoholism on Children
Alcohol abuse in the home creates an environment of instability that directly impacts a child’s emotional and psychological development. When one or both parents are struggling with alcohol use disorder (AUD), children often experience a lack of structure, unpredictability, and neglect.
These factors create an atmosphere where children are left to cope with confusion, fear, and insecurity. Understanding how alcoholism affects families is crucial for providing support. To learn more about how alcohol use impacts family dynamics, visit How Alcoholism Affects Family Dynamics.
According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA), children living in homes with alcohol abuse are at a higher risk for emotional and behavioral issues, which can affect their well-being well into adulthood.
- Emotional instability: Children often struggle with feeling abandoned or ignored, leading to confusion about their place in the family.
- Neglect: With an alcoholic parent, children may not receive the emotional nurturing they need to feel secure, which can stunt their emotional development.
- Unhealthy family dynamics: Addiction in the family can lead to communication breakdowns, where children are unable to express their feelings or receive proper support.

2. Common Emotional and Behavioral Effects
Children of alcoholic parents often carry emotional burdens well into adulthood. The effects of alcoholism on children are profound, with emotional consequences such as feelings of shame, guilt, and abandonment.
- Shame and Guilt: Children may internalize their parents’ addiction, believing they are somehow responsible for their parent’s behavior.
- Perfectionism and Anxiety: A desire to “fix” the family or achieve perfection in other areas often develops as a coping mechanism. Anxiety becomes a byproduct of the constant need to control the uncontrollable.
- Depression: The overwhelming emotional pain from living in a home with an alcoholic often leads to sadness, hopelessness, and depressive symptoms.
Behavioral responses to these emotional burdens can also emerge:
- Acting out: To release the built-up tension and frustration, children may display rebellious or aggressive behavior.
- Social isolation: A lack of emotional security can make it difficult for children to trust others, leading to withdrawal and loneliness.
For more on how therapy can help address these issues, visit The Role of Family Therapy in Addiction Recovery.
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3. Long-Term Effects on Mental Health
The impact of growing up in an alcoholic household can linger far beyond childhood.
Children of alcoholic parents are at a higher risk of developing mental health disorders like depression, anxiety, and even addiction later in life.
Increased Risk of Addiction
Children exposed to alcohol abuse are more likely to struggle with addiction due to genetic and environmental factors. They often repeat the cycle of addiction in their own relationships and behaviors.
Mental Health Struggles
The emotional scars from childhood trauma can develop into anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as children grow into adults.
For more on how addiction in the family can shape mental health, read this comprehensive article from the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA).
4. The Struggles of Adult Children of Alcoholics
The effects of growing up with an alcoholic parent don’t disappear when a child reaches adulthood. In fact, many adult children of alcoholics (ACoAs) continue to experience emotional, psychological, and relational challenges rooted in their childhood trauma.
According to studies, children affected by alcohol use disorders report an average of 2.1 adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). Even one ACE significantly raises the risk of depression, substance use disorder (SUD), and poor physical health outcomes like obesity or smoking. These early experiences shape behaviors and beliefs that persist long into adult life.
Common Challenges Faced by Adult Children of Alcoholics:
- Hypervigilance: Constant awareness and sensitivity to potential threats, even when none exist. This heightened state often stems from growing up in a chaotic environment and can interfere with personal and professional relationships.
- A Need for Control: Many adult children struggle with a deep desire to control situations and people around them as a defense against past unpredictability. This can cause tension in relationships and contribute to burnout.
- Emotional Suppression: Hiding emotions was often a survival strategy in childhood. As adults, many find it difficult to express both positive and negative feelings, leading to emotional disconnection and difficulties with intimacy.
- Low Self-Esteem: Because a child’s sense of self is shaped by how they are treated by caregivers, neglect or emotional absence from a parent with AUD can result in persistent issues with self-worth, boundaries, and confidence.
- Relationship Struggles and Repeating Cycles: Adult children of alcoholics are four times more likely to choose partners who also struggle with substance use. Without intervention, this can perpetuate the cycle of addiction and dysfunction across generations.
Healing as an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
Healing begins by acknowledging past trauma and its impact. According to the National Association for Children of Addiction, key steps include:
- Exploring personal history to move beyond denial and grieve past trauma.
- Connecting the past to the present to better understand patterns of behavior and triggers.
- Challenging internalized beliefs that developed in childhood and no longer serve a healthy adult life.
- Learning new skills and emotional tools to build a life rooted in self-awareness, self-compassion, and resilience.
Recovery is possible, and support is available. The Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families organization offers resources, support groups, and information for adults working to heal from childhood trauma. Learn more at AdultChildren.org.
5. How Children of Alcoholics Can Heal and Recover
While the road to recovery is not easy, healing is possible for children of alcoholic parents. Overcoming the trauma of growing up with alcohol abuse requires therapy, a supportive network, and a commitment to self-growth.
- Therapy and Counseling: Professional therapy can provide children with a space to process their emotions, heal from their trauma, and build healthier coping strategies. Therapy helps individuals understand the long-term effects of alcoholism on children and break free from toxic cycles.
- Support Groups: Joining support groups for children of alcoholics offers a sense of community and validation. Sharing experiences with others who understand can foster healing and a sense of connection.
- Healthy Relationships: Building trust and learning how to create healthy relationships is essential for recovery. With the right guidance, children can rebuild their self-esteem and form meaningful connections with others.
To explore more about how our programs can support families, check out Support for Families Affected by Alcoholism.

6. How to Support Children of Alcoholic Parents
Supporting children of alcoholic parents involves creating a stable, nurturing environment where they feel loved and valued. Children need to know that their feelings are valid and that it’s okay to ask for help.
- Provide emotional stability: Consistently showing love, care, and understanding helps children feel secure and supported.
- Encourage open communication: Let children express their feelings without fear of judgment. Encouraging emotional expression fosters trust and emotional health.
- Guide them toward professional help: Therapy and support groups are essential for helping children heal from past trauma and break the cycle of addiction. External resources like Al-Anon can also provide guidance for those affected by addiction.
By providing a stable, supportive environment, you can help children process their emotions and start the path to recovery.
FAQs
Healing starts with acknowledging the trauma and seeking professional help. Therapy, support groups, and a stable, loving environment are crucial to overcoming the emotional scars.
Yes, children of alcoholic parents are more likely to develop addiction due to genetic factors and learned behaviors from growing up in an unstable environment.
Listen empathetically, avoid judgment, and encourage them to seek therapy or support groups. Showing consistent emotional support is vital.
Yes, family therapy can help rebuild trust, improve communication, and address the trauma caused by living in an alcoholic household.
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Conclusion
Understanding the effects of growing up with an alcoholic parent is crucial for providing the right support to those affected.
The trauma, neglect, and emotional challenges faced by children of alcoholic parents require professional help, a stable environment, and love from those around them. Through therapy, support groups, and emotional healing, children of alcoholics can break the cycle of addiction and build a brighter future.
Contact Project Courage today to learn how our programs can help support children in their healing journey.